Crazy Psychologist

Qi Feng, 35 years old, businessman.

Chu Sisi had previously told Muchun during the case discussion that the patient did not come alone. He came to the hospital with his wife for treatment, saying that his wife felt agitated. Qi Feng saw a guest on a variety show saying that if he had any unpleasant problems, he could go to the mental and physical department, so he accompanied his wife Li to the hospital.

Muchun was not in the hospital at that time, and Chu Sisi told Qi Feng that she was just an intern, and if they didn't mind, they could sit down and chat.

"Qi Feng is a decent-looking man. He is well-dressed but not deliberately dressed. He seems to be a well-educated person. According to what he said, he also graduated from a prestigious university with a major in architecture. He has been engaged in the building materials business. His family conditions are It’s getting better and better.

Both husband and wife spoke well. Although they knew that Chu Sisi was an intern, they decided to sit down and chat for a while after discussion. This is the first treatment.

Li did seem a little irritable at that time. She spoke very quickly, but from time to time she would deny her own statement and say something like, 'It's probably my problem.'

At this time, Qi Feng patted his wife on the shoulder and said lovingly, "It's okay. Let's communicate slowly and everything will get better. You just have too high demands on yourself." ’ In Chu Sisi’s view, Qi Feng is a bit like Chen Weiwei, successful in his career and patient with his wife. "

When Muchun asked who suggested coming to the hospital for a visit, Chu Sisi told Muchun that it was Qi Feng who suggested it.

The main issue discussed was that his wife Li often felt lonely.

"When we got married, I was still taking exams. I haven't graduated yet, but I want to go to graduate school, but I'm already working. I only met Qi Feng because of work."

When Li spoke, her eyes showed her admiration for her husband. Seeing this, Chu Sisi felt that men like Qi Feng were indeed the kind of people who are easier to admire.

"Then, I was busy studying and my husband was busy with business, but he always found time to be with me, I mean the kind of very considerate company, like driving me to school, where I go to school is quite far from home, The drive usually takes 45 minutes, and my husband always takes time to take me to school and prepare lunch for me, saying that if I don’t want to have lunch with my classmates, I can just eat the bento he prepared for me.”

It sounds like he takes good care of people.

"When I finished class, he would show up at the school gate on time to pick me up, which made many classmates at the time very envious."

When Li said this, Qi Feng showed a very doting look towards her, "No, these are all what I should do."

Then Li suddenly became unhappy, and said frustrated and angrily: "But then something happened. I mean now, he is very busy now, very busy. Although he still takes good care of me, I don't know. The statement may be a bit exaggerated, I really don’t know, so..."

"Speak slowly. Everyone will have some unavoidable emotions. It's okay. It might be better if we just let it go." Chu Sisi comforted her. She found that Li looked very unhappy indeed. Her tears It was spinning in my eyes, wanting to fall down at any moment.

"But maybe these are all my reasons. I have too high demands on him. I also understand that we have been married for four or five years, and I can't ask him to treat me like he did when we first fell in love and got married. .”

"My wife has a bit of a princess temper, please forgive me for this." Qi Feng said very politely.

"My princess temper? Do you think this is temper?"

Li turned sideways and looked at Qi Feng. Qi Feng waved his hands quickly like a child who had done something wrong, "No, no, I mean, you are a princess, and you will always be the princess in my heart."

"When I got married, I didn't think this was false at all, but now it sounds a little untrue."

Qi Feng shrugged helplessly. Chu Sisi felt as if Chen Weiwei was coaxing Zhang Mei. Her mother often couldn't help but lose her temper because the case at hand was a headache. At this time, Chen Weiwei My father stayed with my mother very patiently, and always encouraged her, "It's okay, just take your time, and I'll help you figure it out."

In Chu Sisi's view, this is necessary communication between husband and wife. This kind of temper tantrum and doting complement each other and are just a way for both parties to get along.

Li bit her lip and said to Chu Sisi: "Doctor, I think there is a little problem between us, maybe it is related to the child."

"Don't talk nonsense." Qi Feng suddenly grabbed Li's hand, and Li pulled her hand out, as if determined to tell Chu Sisi her grievances.

"Maybe because I don't want to have children, my husband is a little cold to me."

Chu Sisi felt that maybe she should ask some questions about marital life at this time, but she didn't know how to ask, for fear that everyone would be embarrassed.

"There is no such thing. Why do you have to attribute everything to the children? I have told you many times that it has nothing to do with the children. It is because you are under too much pressure. If you plan to go to Europe Work there, I said I support you, don’t think that because you are hesitant and unable to make up your mind about work issues, we are often unhappy because of our children.”

"Why can you tell lies with such open eyes? Aren't your parents always urging us to have a child? But I'm still young, and I don't think this is something we should have to face right now."

"So this is your princess temper. I always think that what you think is right. Okay, okay, let's talk. There is a doctor here today. We can explain the problem clearly. I'll say it first, I swear. , I did not ask my wife to have children, I like you, whether you want to have children or not, this matter will not affect my feelings for you."

Li didn't know whether to laugh or cry, and said: "Did you really swear?"

Qi Feng raised his hand seriously, "I can say the same thing to anyone."

"Even in front of your parents?"

Rei still couldn't believe it.

"Of course, I don't think my parents are the kind of people who are unreasonable and make trouble without reason. My wife and my marriage are my business, why do you care so much about what they think, besides, I don't I don’t know why they are urging us to have children, or am I losing my memory?”

The two sounded like they were arguing, but Qi Feng always gave way to his wife.

"I think your loneliness is because you have too high demands on yourself. Why can't you just be a wife? You can live like a princess, go out every morning and drink a cup of coffee, then go shopping, and buy whatever you want. It’s okay. Although the family’s money is not considered rich, you don’t need to be careful about spending money every day. I’ve given you the credit card and I will pay it back for you every month. In the afternoon, you can find a best friend to drink with like other girls. Afternoon tea, there are so many good places around the sea, with delicious food from all over the place, or you can go on a trip, wherever you want to go.”

"When I talk about traveling, I get even more headaches and feel unhappy." Li looked at Chu Sisi and said, "Really, when I talk about traveling, I feel even more uncomfortable, but you know what? I don't think I can do this. I can't complain, because most of the family's income is earned by Qi Feng, and I can't complain that he doesn't accompany me on trips. In short, I feel that all my worries, my inability to eat, my inability to sleep, are all because of him. No time for me.”

"I've been with you as much as possible."

"No, you don't. Ever since you started opening branches in other cities, I have often thought that my husband is a workaholic. I used to think that you were a man with very good time management, but now, I think you are Manage your time by reducing the time you spend with me, and I’m the unimportant person who gets shrunk and shrunk.”

"It's not what you said at all. If I really don't care about you and don't want to be by your side, why would I suggest that we go to the hospital to talk to the doctor? Why do I care so much about your feelings? You have to know that you When it comes to loneliness, it’s basically a kind of harm to me, okay?”

"sorry."

Li suddenly cried, as if she had really hurt Qi Feng.

At this time, Qi Feng reached out to hold his wife, and put his wife's hand between his own. The two of them showed "love" in front of Chu Sisi.

Chu Sisi really didn't think there was any problem between the two.

According to her knowledge, couples therapy is a type of family therapy, usually to deal with problems originating in the family system, such as emotional communication difficulties between the two parties, or one party believing that the other party has a personality disorder, etc.

Generally speaking, people are quite repulsive to couples therapy. If one party wants to seek help, it is often not easy to ask the other party for help. It is still taboo for people to ask to talk to a doctor about such matters.

For thousands of years, the culture formed by the people on this land has always been that family scandals should not be made public.

No matter what happens at home, most people outside will always say that their home is very nice, their husband treats them well, and their wife is very gentle. In fact, there may have been a cold war between the two for several years.

Chu Si thought about Zhang Mei and Chu Xiaofeng. In the eyes of outsiders, Professor Chu's reputation in the academic world was getting higher and higher. He was a doctor and a university professor. Such a husband was already considered very good.

Zhang Mei himself loves the profession of lawyer very much. He is conscientious in his work, and his family's wealth accumulation is also very good. Neither of them spends money carelessly. Problems that ordinary people can think of have never occurred in this family.

No one would have thought that Chu Xiaofeng and Zhang Mei would divorce in the end.

Chu Sisi still doesn't know the reason. She once wondered if it was because of her that her parents gradually became indifferent to each other.

Or maybe it was because of work. When she was young, Chu Sisi even thought about it, if neither of them had to work, if there was no "work" in the world, would the relationship between mom and dad be like those happy families on TV? Woolen cloth?

The whole family dines out together every week, and goes on family trips every month or every holiday. But Chu Sisi's childhood was nothing like this. Her parents respected each other, but their relationship was very cold, and they almost lived their own lives. .

If Professor Chu hadn't said it, Chu Sisi hadn't said it, and Zhang Mei hadn't said it, no one would have doubted that this family was one of the thousands of happy families in the world, but in fact they were unhappy.

It wasn't until her parents separated that Chu Sisi saw Zhang Mei's happiness and her father Chu Xiaofeng's relaxed expression. For a long time, she still didn't understand what was going on. She even thought that it might be because There is no need to take care of this daughter together.

Under normal circumstances, outsiders will not be involved in this kind of conflict between families.

Qi Feng took the initiative to bring his wife to the hospital, which made Chu Sisi feel that he cared about Li very much, because his father, Chu Xiaofeng, had never tried to understand his mother's mood, at least he had not considered using some methods to reunite the two of them. The feelings became harmonious.

Li seemed to feel that she was being unreasonable, but her loneliness was real.

"I think it all probably started when you started doing business outside." Li's focus changed from her parents urging them to have children to Qi Feng doing business outside.

"When you met me, I was in the building materials business. In recent years, the demand for building materials in Haihai is not as good as in previous years. This is caused by market changes. However, the demand for building materials in the surrounding area is indeed growing day by day. Shouldn't I look at the opportunity to make money? Work hard, is this going to make it harder and harder to do business year after year waiting around the sea?”

"But your colleagues, I mean, your friends don't go out to do business so often." Li raised her hand to wipe her tears. Chu Sisi was about to hand her a piece of paper, but Qi Feng was already wiping his wife's tears. Tears.

"Don't cry. You know, I work so hard for you. For this family, if I make more money, you can live a more comfortable life. This is my promise to you, isn't it?"

"I know, so, I'm sorry, I don't know what to say, maybe we shouldn't come to the hospital today, I feel so embarrassed."

Li turned her face and stopped looking at Chu Sisi. Chu Sisi didn't know how to proceed.

"We can talk separately next time." Mu Chun gave Chu Sisi such advice.

The time for follow-up consultation was exactly ten o'clock in the morning the next day.

Muchun looked at Deng Moran and roughly sketched the possible outline of the whole thing.

The most obvious thing is that one of Deng Moran and Li is definitely not Qi Feng's wife in the legal sense.

Bigamy is illegal. Would a successful man like Qi Feng openly marry two wives despite knowing that it is illegal?

If no one is lying, what is the truth?

Muchun promised Deng Moran that she would get an answer to this matter the next day, and she could go home and wait for the call.

Deng Moran did not accept this solution at first, until Muchun told her that Qi Feng might have really been to the hospital. Deng Moran looked at Mu Chun blankly, looking a little dazed. Finally, she said: " I hope you made a mistake."